What They Had is a 2018 American drama film written and directed by Elizabeth Chomko in her feature directorial debut. Starring Hilary Swank, Michael Shannon, Robert Forster, Blythe Danner, Taissa Farmiga, and Josh Lucas, the film follows two siblings in conflict with their father over whether or not to put their mother, who suffers from Alzheimer's disease, in a nursing home.

The film premiered at the Sundance Film Festival on January 21, 2018, and was theatrically released in the United States on October 19, 2018, by Bleecker Street.^[3]

When Alzheimer's-stricken Ruth Everhardt wanders into the streets during a blizzard on Christmas Eve, her daughter, Bridget Ertz, travels back to her hometown to help her brother, Nicky, convince their father, Norbert, to put Ruth in a nursing home and face the end of their life together.

Ruth returns home with her family and discussions ensue about her future. Nicky has secured a spot for Ruth in one of the premiere assisted care facilities in Chicago, yet Norbert insists that he alone can provide the best care for her. Nicky looks to Bridget for help, but her time away from her parents makes this a challenge to address.

Bridget is dealing with her own immediate family issues as she's never connected with her husband, Eddie, while her daughter, Emma, suffers from anxiety and has stopped attending college. Nicky continues arguing with Norbert over Ruth's future and leaves afterwards. Bridget discusses her father's interference in her life just as they notice that Ruth has again disappeared. She is quickly found, but Norbert finally realizes that Ruth must leave for the assisted care facility.

Norbert reconciles with Nicky by visiting his tavern. Shortly thereafter, Norbert dies from a heart attack, leaving Nicky devastated. Bridget spends time with Ruth at the care facility and sees how well the staff are treating her. She leaves the facility with a restful smile on her face.

• Hilary Swank as Bridget "Bitty" Ertz
• Michael Shannon as Nicholas "Nicky" Everhardt
• Robert Forster as Norbert Everhardt
• Blythe Danner as Ruth Everhardt (née O'Shea)
• Taissa Farmiga as Emma Ertz
• Josh Lucas as Eddie Ertz
• Sarah Sutherland as Mary
• Aimee Garcia as Dr. Zoe
• Jay Montepare as David
• Jennifer Robideau as Rachel

In December 2017, it was reported that Danny Mulhern would compose the film's score.^[12]

The end credit song "Are You There" is written by Aoife O'Donovan, the film's writer and director Elizabeth Chomko and her mother Kate Chomko.^[13]

In May 2017, Bleecker Street acquired domestic distribution rights to the film.^[14] It had its world premiere at the Sundance Film Festival on January 21, 2018.^[15][16] What They Had was initially scheduled for release on March 16, 2018,^[17] but was pushed back to October 19, 2018.^[18]

On review aggregator website Rotten Tomatoes, the film has an approval rating of 86% based on 116 reviews, with an average of 7.1/10. The website's critical consensus reads, "What They Had finds laughter and tears in its portrait of a family at a crossroads, with writer-director Elizabeth Chomko getting outstanding performances out of a talented cast."^[19] Metacritic assigned the film a weighted average score of 69 out of 100, based on 25 critics, indicating "generally favorable reviews".^[20]